Count your blessings instead of sheep...

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Bobbi.. I think we know you struggle, its kind of obvious from your posts even if you dont say, so never fear you are not 'outing' yourself!

You dont want to get over him/take a magic potion because that would mean letting go, and you cant let go. My theory is, when one partner walks out and yet the other partner 100% wanted to stay in teh relationship, you sort of never get over that. I know I wouldnt have if H hadnt come back. Sure, I would have gone on to date sooner than you have, but then I was motivated to have kids and I may have even gotton together with the Piscean pretty quick, moved in and done that (who knows how many years it would've lasted, but we did genuinely love each other).. but a corner of my heart would ALWAYS have loved my ex.. as a small corner of my heart still loves the Piscean.

The reason I'm ok with that though, is I chose to leave him.

If you are the one who was left and had no say/control over that, its unfinished business in the extreme and I thikn its perfectly normal to not be 'over it' or done.

You just need to find ways of coping and moving on.. a new direction in life, a new passion (going back to school to do something frivolous maybe!?) a new love as Jon says..

I think its like those woman on my fertility board that just cant get pregnant and have to accept that and stop trying in their 40s's... you never get over it, or stop wishing, you just find ways to move on.

Hey I'm no counsellor, but I would say how you feel is entirely normal hun.