I am sure my H. is in pain. Can he reveal it? Not to me.
He's steely eyed, unemotional and gives away nothing. His pupils do not even dialate when he sees me, and I am always dressed attractively.

My H. cannot speak the language of feelings. All he can express is extreme frustration and anger at his inability to identify what he feels. This is part of why Retrouvaille failed for us. Even though he had word lists of feelings and the words were categorized and faces of emotion were depicted.

The other part is he felt coerced by me to do it, because of his inability to say no/disagree.

I do not know if this helps you any. I hope it can at least help others.

BITS
Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.