Wow, thanks for that AJM80. There just seems to be so much weird stuff going on right now that my thoughts and emotions feel like they are on a merry go round. You say that maybe my H couldn't live up to the person he thought I expected him to be. That could be a possibility. So why is it that now that he is gone, he is doing the things I have asked him to do? Not everything, but he has definately started. Like going to the movies with the kids. Going to the gym. Staying on his AD's.
Why do this now? I am not perfect in the M. I definately helped with the break down of it, but I always felt that I was willing to listen to what he had to say. I would try to make an effort to do something to change things. Like sex was a big part of our fights. H is the HD and I am the LD...sort of. One of the last suggestions I had to H about our differences in the bedroom was to go to the gym. Not him, but both of us. I told him that I thought the couple that works out together has more sex together. He wasn't interested. Now he goes to the gym? I just don't get this behavior from him right now.
I know I will drive myself crazy trying to figure out why he is doing what he is doing. I know I have to stop. I do not question him on any of this so I guess I am just venting right now. I have to get it out somewhere.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
