There are many good books about meeting your spouses needs, speaking their language, etc. Find the one(s) that most speaks to you and read them. All of them if you think it helps, but remember she is looking to SEE your changes.
The line I remember saying to my W was: "I understand that I have said this before, but this time I truly get it. I know that you need to see my actions and not just hear the words. My words have no real value anymore."
Will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
