I would suggest that you continue not initiating any R talk. When she is ready she will do so. When she does it is a test to see if the "old" you is in there somewhere. The biggest thing that you need to remember is to listen. Really listen, then validate those feelings/thoughts that she is sharing. She is giving you a window into how she is feeling/thinking, right now.
This part is where you are relearning her. Right now you need to discard the thoughts of understanding her moods, emotions, and thoughts. (all mind reading activities) Focus on her behavior. How does she act when the new and improved YOU is around. Are you looking your best and putting into practice all of the things that you have learned about since the day she said she didn't want you in her life anymore?
You need to know that deep down you will be okay either way. (D or not) These changes truly are for you. If you just change for her she will see through that. I think that if your W was truly done you would be seeing/hearing nothing. You wouldn't even exisit at all, with the exception as someone to see when doing child exchanges.
Listen, listen, listen.
Will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
