Just a short "whatcha doin' how was your day" kind of thing. A quick check in from her, and an even quicker check-out.
Ask me how my day was. Asked me what I did. Talked about the weather. and then she told me to have a good night, there was about a 30 second pause, and she was gone before I could respond
What I'm feeling is...moderately perturbed. With myself.
I'm perturbed because I don't like the feeling of being so analytical about every single word that either of us says.
Yet it seems difficult for me to do when are communications are so infrequent and when...
when...
I am so attached to the outcome (he says very slowly as the lights come on)
I am still worried about how she is thinking, feeling, interpreting things, I am still guessing, planning, plotting...
Hmmm.
Not sure how deep this rabbit hole still goes.
Debrief: What. So What. Now What.
What happened was my wife texted me to see what I was doing. We had a very brief conversation about nothing. And then she said goodnight.
So what that means is nothing more than she is still interested in hearing what I am doing.
Now what I am going to do with that information is...
Hmm. I might call her in the morning on her way home from work. SHe used to like it when I "walked" her home while she drives after working the night shift...
So yes. I'm going to sleep on it first, and if I still feel like calling her in the morning then I will. If I don't, I wont.
If I do, then I will only be cheerful, non-confrontational, non-invasive or leading questions...just listening, listening, listening, validating, validating, validating.
Sounds like a plan.
Sleep well, DBers.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
