WAW on the Peninsula

[LITB]

WAW behavior is so strange.

W had been cleaning out old paperwork, along with old cards we have shared over the years for special occasions on Friday. I asked if she was throwing away all the cards I had given to her. She said, "yes". I replied, "ouch, that hurts". Then I proceeded to bring up her previous apology about the lies, since we were on the subject of hurt. I took Sandi's advice about the A being more hurtful. W said that her apology was not only about the lies, but also the EA. She was sorry that she didn't make that clear. I told that I still forgive her. At least it was brought up and air'd out.

So yesterday morning I went through the house and took down all of our wedding pics, all the pics with W in them, W's family photos and all of her art. I moved all my family pics where the wedding ones were. D and I then went shopping for new art and I replaced the ones W is taking. Ironically W liked all the new additions.

During the evening W wasn't feeling good and was looking for medicine. Unfortunately there wasn't anything for how she was feeling. I offered to run to Walgreens for her. She told me that she hates asking me, because I always used to give her an attitude when she would ask me to do something. I validated, told her, "I understand, I'm sorry I was like that. That was the old LITB. I'm here for you if you need me. This is the new LITB." She thanked me and I was on my way.

I went to Walgreens and bought her the medication and a coffee mug to keep her tea hot. So here's where it gets interesting. W loves her hot tea and accidentally broke her tea glass on Friday. When I got home I handed her the medicine while she was in the livingroom. I went to the kitchen to make her tea. While I was warming the water and standing at the sink getting ready to wash her new mug, W walked to the kitchen and stood next to me to get water. She realized what I was doing as she saw the mug and the water being warmed, and said "thank you" about 3 times and gave me a hug. She called me sweetheart once while she stood there, I just don't remember the exact context.

There were at least (2) 180s in that last sequence of events. 1. Me going out of my way to run to the store without being asked. 2. Making sure the W felt like her need had my full attention.