Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

Well today has been a turn of events. I received a phone call from W. I thought it was the kids so I answered. The W immediately starting questioning me.

W: Who was over the house with a red car?

Me: (In a calm voice) There hasn't been anyone at the house with a red car.

W: (Very angry) You have been questioning me and I think it is pretty messed up that you would have somebody over there. Just tell me who it is. Just be honest.

Me: I am being honest. Nobody was over here and I am not questioning you anymore. I can not control you. You will do what you want to do. Who is telling you that someone has been over here?

W: Somebody came into the bar and told my sister that there has been a red car over there a lot lately.

Me: Well I do not know of any red cars that have been over here. The other person I know that even has close to a red car is my Mom. Who told your sister this?

W: Let's just say word gets around.

Me: (laughing) I am sorry but there has not been anyone over here with a red car. I do not even know of anyone who could've been over here with a red car. The only people that have been over here are BIL, my Mom, and the kids.

W: Just be honest and tell me. I don't care if you have. Just tell me the truth.

Me: I am being honest and apparently you do care or you wouldn't be asking. There hasn't been any one here other than the people I told you. Can I talk to the kids?

Handed phone to the kids.

So this is very weird now. I have not had anyone over here and I will not have anyone over here. I think it would be very disrespectful for me to bring another woman into our house while I am living in it.

There is a couple of things I need to clear up. The woman I called was a friend from HS. I have not spoken to her in 11 years. I called her and talked to her for maybe 30 minutes. I broke all rules of trying to date somebody intentionally. I told her about the D. I told her that I hope things work out with my W and I. I told her I had wondered how she had been since I haven't talked to her in so long. When I made the call I had no intentions of pursuing this woman. It was a phone call that was no different than when I call my W's sister to check on her, her boyfriend and child. I didn't get an ego boost off of it. There was no flirting or anything of the sort. I had no bad intentions. I will not be contacting her or any other woman until D is final and my boundaries have been passed or I decide I am ready to move on.

I didn't send that text message on you guy's recommendations. I have not contacted her other than to speak to the kids and plan on keeping it that way. Also, I hope I can avoid being in this type of conversation with W.

Sandi, I hope you chime on on my W's behavior and why she would act this way if she doesn't care?

If anyone else has any input please feel free.