SA - I agree with Snodderly btw that some may continue to be abusive even when lawyers are involved, but I think for others, particularly those with concern for their self image, it can [not necessarily will] act as a brake.
What is helpful though is that another person is seeing all of this stuff. You are no longer dealing with it alone. For me this period [ apart from immediately post bomb] was probably the worst part. Once the divorce is over everything seems to calm down. . . ..
I never thought I would feel better when it was all over, but I do.
As for your daughter - well it is up to her. My children all refused to have anything to do with OW. I have no idea the extent to which she still figures in my h's life. He periodically claims it is over, but I have no contact with him post divorce, and am not sure I want to see him again.
