H still living in home but cheating

[abbey1989]

So, here's my question to you.....what would you do if you were contacted by OW and told that your suspicions were true. What would be your next move?

If OW contacted me (which I'm sure she won't), after telling her that she is a worthless homewrecker, and a class-one loser, I would confront H and find out his intentions. Stay with me and our family or move on to greener pastures. My son caught wind of a possible A a couple of years ago and he told me that he would never forgive H if he disrespected me that way. H would really be setting himself for a life away from all he has known the last 20+ years. I really think that if he loses me, he will alienate his kids as well. His loss!!!!!


Now let's say that before you have time to decide what your move would be, that your H decides to confess everything to you. Then what would be your next move?

If H did actually confess to me, while I know it would be excruciating, I would listen. I would feel validated. I would know I wasn't going crazy. I would know that I CAN trust my intuition. My next move would be to have him make a choice. Me or Her. I would ask him to leave and figure out what he wants so I can try to regain some sort of normalcy in my life. We would have to figure out our business arrangement (since I run the office)...but in all honesty...I like to know where our money is and what is going on financially. Giving that up would be pretty tough. But would have to do it if it came to that.

I hope I haven't painted H as a horrible father. He really is a good Dad. Just has not been so involved with kids since this OW or MLC or whatever it is that is going on. Especially since S went off to college. He actually just took D on a college tour up in NoCal and they both had a nice time and made some good decisions about her college future.

Thank you Sandi2....

Today headed to a girlfriend's house to watch the Oscars. Will be a nice distraction.








I would be interested to know how you'd answer both scenarios.[/quote]