should I let him sleep in the bed we used to share or should I let him know maybe it would be best if he slept on the couch ?
Well, I would treat him as you would a guest. If you had overnight guests, would you offer your bed to them? If you are not comfortable with him being in your bed, move one of the kids to it and let H sleep in the kids room.
Hope all goes well with your surgery! Take care
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