Not Sure Which Way to Go

[JustStunned]

Down, I am no expert here, but IMO tread carefully.

My W has repeatedly told family about an old HS flame of mine. She met her once at a class reunion 9 years ago. When she met her I was attentive to W and my relationship. At the time W was not feeling secure and I made sure she knew she could be. Still W is now bringing up this other women to family as though I should be contacting her. IMO she does this to push me away from any hope of a new R within our M and to assuage guilt she feels over running away.