Yes, Golfgirl, all my friends agree, something fishy here. And YES! Guys, take off the sunglasses. One photo with shades on is ok, but it shouldn't be your main or only photo - makes us think you're hiding something.
Barb - I love your analogy! When getting a new puppy, you look at the litter and do temperament tests, to see which puppy is right for you. I just need to devise temperament tests for potential future dates.
The 42 year old that I had the coffee date with in early January texted yesterday about getting together again for another coffee date. Frankly, I wasn't that excited about another coffee date - I would like to see him again, but was afraid it would be boring just sitting and talking again. Then I remembered that one of my friends from the rock band class, who has moved on and is playing in an actual working band now, is playing a gig Wed night near my home. I was planning to attend after my own rock band practice that night, so I invited the 42 year old to meet me there instead.
I also figure I'll learn a little more about him by seeing him in this social setting. (Can he dance? Is he rude to waitresses?) And the guitarist in my band might come, if so, he'll give me a guy's opinion of this one.
I've already learned that he doesn't drink - I'll be interested to find out the reason. (Religious basis? Or recovering alcoholic?)
This is the guy who didn't exactly make my heart go pitter pat at the first meeting, but who is a super nice solid guy that I figured deserved a couple of dates before I made up my mind about him. We'll see.
I admit, I have so many friends who are in recovery, I kinda assume people are ex-alcoholics when they say they don't drink! But I could be "jumping to convulsions" as my ex used to say. He actually doesn't have that ex-alcoholic vibe.
I'm late to the party but have lots to talk about. gr8
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Ah well - the 42 year old said he was feeling better and proposed a date for tonight (this happened a couple of days ago). But then this afternoon he texted me that he'd gone on a date with a woman he'd known for a while and wanted to see where that led.
I'm not disappointed about him canceling on me, in that I didn't really think he was my type anyway. But dang - I thought I was finally gonna break my dating drought. This IS getting a bit ridiculous. I've gone on all of two coffee dates since last May when the hermit broke up with me. I'm gonna have to step up the pace here if I ever expect to get anywhere.
(Mind you - if I was willing to date the 20-somethings and the Santa Clauses, I've had plenty of offers.)
Catch of the day: today I hear from a lawyer in his late 20's who also does standup comedy(and sends me the video to prove it). Very funny, obviously smart, loves to travel. And tells me he once dated a woman who was 56 (they broke up when her ex-husband came back into the picture!).
Why don't I hear from guys in their 40's or 50's who are like this???
