Beatrice, Some become less abusive....others continue doing just what they've been doing and totally ignore the written word of his/her lawyer. They look at the lawyers as authority figures and while they are acting like children, they will try the patience of the lawyers as well. They like to push the envelope more often than not.
My xh was one of those envelope pushers and I had to stand firm w/him throughout the years until the divorce was final. Now, the loon continues to ask for things that were not identified in the decree and I continue to refer him back to the written word each and every time.....he got all he was getting from me...
SA, they come bullies and victims during this time and want everything that they feel they are entitled to. You are not asking for anything more than what you deserve or need. Stand firm and do not waffle. If he senses a weakness, that is where he will continue to strike until he can wear you down. Stay strong, you aren't the one that created this mess....he did.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
