Cas, Punkin and Snodderly, thank you for all your kind words, support and understanding and very wise advice. It continues to see me through. I am blessed and honored to have been led to a group of such extraordinary people.
Snodderly, the one major hit H was trying to use against me to our daughter was something I had already talked to her about not too long ago. I used it as a lesson about a mistake I had made as a young woman. A pitfall that by telling her about I hoped she could and would avoid. I guess it was a shock to her father when she said that Mom had already told her about it.
The other things were rehashes of his justifications for leaving. They have become more exaggerated each time he repeats them.
As he was shouting these things to her in the middle of the Mall she said that people stopped and stared at them. I don't know if they feared he would become violent or if they were just there for the drama. D18's friend who H had excused heard the entire exchange.
I ended my letter to him saying that anything further he had to say could be said through his L and I would do the same.
I will take your wise advice and to let it go. You're right, it is non productive at this time. H doesn't hear or feel anything unless it is directly related to him. I know none of these things would have been said by him if I had just accepted the divorce on his terms.
