It's me that's cycling!

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

I imagine that when our H's visit with the family and we are not there it is very awkward. Society still frowns on infidelity and they (the family) loathe what our H's have done and feel sorry for us being hurt and left, time may not heal all their wounds. Especially in situations like ours where we were members of the family for years.

In my case H does not see his family except for 1 brother and 1 nephew. The rest do not approve and avoid him. The 1 brother and nephew who contact have also made friends with the OW. The rest want nothing to do with her and have told me so, thus they still get together but do not include H. My son only sees H's father and it's because I have made it possible for son to see grandfather every two weeks.

I only have contact with FIL and the subject of H regardless of topic is avoided.

It is very interesting that after all this time his Sis is still treating him with a grudge. She obviously still wants him to know she does not approve of his choices. I wonder if H is fluffing off this thing with his sister or does she leave an impact on him to ponder. I guess it depends on their relationship prior to your situation.

Do you have contact with this sister of H's?

To me, MIL is obviously in protection mode for her son. While she does not approve of his actions and choices, she still loves him and is going to stand by him regardless of the crime. That leaves everyone else out. She will challenge any other's ideas in protection of H....she has Mama Bear Syndrome.

I am glad you two can still talk about other things, just not H really. Maybe over time this subject will relax.

Maybe some more information about H will flow your way this upcoming week.

Have a good one regardless, Cas. I will pop in for any updates.

Sanderika