Thank you all for your support. You are very strong admirable women, and I can no longer consider myself in the same class.
I sent that letter that was in my draft folder. With a few added truth darts.
Yesterday, was the last straw and I had my say. H hit way below the belt in some of the things he said about me to our daughter. The things he said had no relevancy to our sitch. What he told her were things designed to make me look bad to her. They were things that took place even before I met him. I hit him below the belt a couple times in the letter too. At least I said it to him and not to her, but I'm no better.