why ARE you having dinner with her one night a week?
Seperate your accounts NOW Do not keep bending over backward to do her favors
if she wants the stroller, let her ask. If she forgets it, oh well
back off and let her sink or swim without taking you down with her
and STOP ASSUMING ANYTHING ABOUT HER you don't know she is living her own life now live yours
The dinners were suggested by our couples therapist. They were originally intended as a place where we could talk about our R away from the house she did not feel safe in. Once the whole email hacking saga came out, our couples therapist said that all R talk should only occur in her office once a week. She suggested we could continue the dinners to have no R talk. We take our baby with us, but it is the one time a week that we just get to have stress free conversation. It is also the prime time where I show off my 180.
I am not going in the dark yet, so I am not sure the once a week dinners should be cancelled.
I have already started to separate the accounts. We live paycheck to paycheck, but my next is going straight to my solo account. I will let her know of this decision on Tuesday. I will also split that account on Tuesday, although she really has not been spending off that account at all.
I do need to detach. The stroller was a move where I was waiting for your 2x4.
I do need to detach and back off. I am working really hard to live my own life and stop assuming what she is up to. Harder to act on then to write. I am trying, though. I do think I am making progress.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
