How long should you try? Until........

[Bolt]

ummm dude, this all sounds pretty dang positive to me. She is unsure what to do BUT is also giving you a roadmap of what to do. She is saying exactly how she felt and what she wants.

That's what we LBS all want to hear. What can I do to make this work?! She is spelling it out for you, dude.

I think you are going down the right path for sure.

Here's your next step. BE THAT MAN! Be the guy she wants you to be. I KNOW you are, dude. I KNOW you can be that guy and ARE being that guy.

She needs affirmation that you love her no matter what she looks like, no matter what she does, no matter how she acts. My W is the same. She just wants to feel that she matters. Because you and her have that history, it is UBER important to her that she matters to YOU.

Show her that dude. You are in the right place.
Honestly, when I was reading that, I was sure she was going to ask how you felt about the sitch and what you thought. It sure seemed like she was feeling that.

Keep going, buddy!