Hang in there bud, sending positive thoughts your way also.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
@Wanda and Mike: I am hanging in there! There's been lots of love from friends like you and family like mine. I had a great time with our son (trying not to say "my" son because it sounds selfish/possessive, IMHO. That's how my wife refers to our son with others anyway, i.e. MY son). He had a play date and he had loads of fun.
Did come home to an expected mess, however. These are ADULTS friends that helped my wife move, right? My wife is an ADULT too, right? Wouldn't you clean up the place after you move out? Wouldn't you putty up screw holes and such in the wall left by the things YOU removed? Plus there are still quite a lot of my wife's things she didn't get to take with her this time, so shouldn't I just gather them up and put them in a corner/garage?
Hey Alamo,Hang in there man. expected mess. yup, my wife left one too. I just cleaned it up.
As to some of her items, i initially collected them to her give them back. Later decided to keep them as memories. But if she asks for them, i'll give them back.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
Hey Alamo,Hang in there man. expected mess. yup, my wife left one too. I just cleaned it up.
As to some of her items, i initially collected them to her give them back. Later decided to keep them as memories. But if she asks for them, i'll give them back.
Thanks man. You would think that as a former tenant of the house, she'd have the common sense/courtesy to clean up and repair nail holes, etc. You'd also think that her friends would be like-minded too.
As for her stuff, they are things she actually said she wanted, but I'm guessing didn't fit in the truck. So I'm not sure if I should leave them be, or move them all to the garage or something.
Arrrgggghhh, I'm so mad right now. I come home from church with my son and find that my wife came back (even she did not say she'll be back after moving out) to take more stuff. Now she's just taking whatever she feels like taking. Should I be putting my name on spoons and nails for fear she might decide she has the right to take them too. How did y'all handle this kind of situation?
She just clears things and doesn't even bother to clean or tidy up after herself. Is this her idea of moving forward?
I think that you need to take her keys... or change the locks.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I empathise with you right now. Seems that when they leave your expectation of them behaving in a decent and considerate manner can go out the window too.
I don't know what goes on upstairs in the head of someone that once said they loved you, to end up behaving in a manner that's anything but even how they would treat a stranger.
I do know that they're behaving and very much in a child like mindframe.
Denver is right, change the locks.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
I think that you need to take her keys... or change the locks.
BITS Denver
I just read the quote in your sig and am trying not to take anything she's doing right now personally. She may be dealing another bad hand by taking many of the good things, but I have to stand firm but not let my emotions get the better of my judgment.
I empathise with you right now. Seems that when they leave your expectation of them behaving in a decent and considerate manner can go out the window too.
I don't know what goes on upstairs in the head of someone that once said they loved you, to end up behaving in a manner that's anything but even how they would treat a stranger.
I do know that they're behaving and very much in a child like mindframe.
Denver is right, change the locks.
Well, she has a garage remote, so I'm going to reset it later. Technically she still is a legal tenant until tomorrow (Feb 28) because her name obviously and mine are on the rental contract. Do you think she can pull that card?
