Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

[sparks14]

Any BITS have any advice out there? Do I stick with this plan of 180, detach, and GAL?

I guess in the end that is all I can do, because I can't make her decisions for her. If this is all a game of manipulation and dishonesty for her, do I just sit back and try and not let it effect me?

Yes... and... yes.

You answered your own question Sparks. I am not familiar with your sitch. Sorry. But the one thing that is true of every sitch here is that you do NOT, and can NOT, control the decisions or choices of your S.

You control only you.

I know that it is so much easier said that done my friend... but it can be done.

Have confidence in what you are doing... have your eye on the prize... visualize your success...

success in improving yourself AND

success in saving your M.

And be patient.

BITS
Denver

Thanks, Denver. I can visualize this path. I just need to find the stomach for it on a daily basis.

She is getting her own apartment next Saturday. I know that will present itself an opportunity for me to get emotional and show a bad side of me. I need to suck it up and give her space. Confidence. I have to totally detach from the OW and any concerns with the OW.

I think I have a grasp for what I need to do, I just need the reassurances from the BITS to keep me going.