I'd say that right now you guys are going through a lot. So if there are things that you can afford to pass, i would say let is pass and not let it bother you that much.
f you think that $1900 is goona hurt you financially then i guess you can sit down and talk. If not let it go. She could be hoarding that money right now just to prepare herself for a single's life.
In the whole scheme of things in your life, that $1900 might not matter much.
just my 2c
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