Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

[sparks14]

I am feeling really angry right now and could use some help and advice.

I feel like the dishonesty from my W is taking me over the edge.

Who is this person?

In couples therapy, we brought up our tax refund. We had made the decision long ago to pay off debts. Now she wanted it to go towards day care. Using Turbo Tax, the refund was looking to be $4k before I got her W2 entered. Once entered, it dropped to a $1800 refund. I am not an accountant, but it seems to me that if she were to file solo, she would be owing taxes. She still felt obligated to some of the money. The therapist said that since we were still married, we could just split it. We both agreed.

Now... going through old mail, I had found a paycheck from my W's job from last summer that for some reason was not auto drafted. I asked my W to take it to school and see if she was owed this money. She came back and told me that they would figure it out and email her. I asked her to keep me posted. The other day, I noticed that her work deposited $1900 into our account. I thought awesome! Today, I discovered that my wife went to the bank and withdrew the entire total.

She has her own checking account that she has been very secretive about. She is about to move into an apartment "for space" next Saturday. I know that she is going to have a very difficult time affording to love on her salary, but I have decided to bring up that we will be splitting accounts and no longer have a joint account once she separates.

Now I find out about this withdraw today!

Please help me off the ledge here, because I am having a very difficult time not thinking that she is playing me for a fool right now.