Seeking answers, thanks for the welcome. When my H left 9 years ago it was very sudden. In fact it was my daughters birthday and after we had a dinner for her he came home and left. He was gone for 3 months. At that time he talked about D but never seemed serious about it. He never filed. This time however he also left very suddenly and when he was confronted with an out of state A it was he instantly wanted a divorce. Called our kids and told them, told me. He waited about 3 months before he filed. It has now come to the part where i have to counter petition his petition and i dont want anything to do with this D. I do not want it. I have very little communication with him. Usually by texts and it cant be anything personal. THe EA was started online with someone he friended and H used to date her 35 years ago. I think he must think he can pick up the pieces where he left off. I want so much to try and work things out. He isnt willing to go see a therapist because he thinks he will just be beatdown and the blame will all be put on him. He takes no blame for what happened. Said its all my fault. I have been trying the LRT and i dont know if its working or not. Ive had no communication with him except he wants to do the taxes. I wish i just knew if he even missed me. What i do feel is that if he even has thoughts about coming home i dont think he knows how to do it. His children have completely written him off. The couple of friends he does have he may think he will look weak he he comes home. Ive offered different ways of taking baby steps to see if anything is fixable and there for awhile i thought he was thinking about it but then i got the papers. Of course when i asked him why he did that he said because i told him to! I dont know the waiting game is killing my heart
