Islander, maybe i have started some of the detachment phase altho i think im really fighting it. I had 2 good days last week where there were no tears. TOday i sit her thinking that any minute hes going to pull with a truck to get the rest of his stuff out of here. I will fall apart if that happens and i really dont know if it will. You said you would wait around for how long it takes if it meant your family would come back. I definitely do agree with you but theres 2 things that bother me about that. 1. Does the waiting longer slim the chances that it will happen because maybe they like their new life? 2. It really honks me off that we have to wait for something that they decided to create. For me its really hard to GAL since that life has been a homemaker for my H and kids for 29 years. I feel like now was it all a lie, all a fake because he said he was so unhappy? He never came to me with his feelings. He went to an atty a few times (i never knew about til recently) but never to me. Thats what really hurts because he decided to WA and it was only his decision. I havent heard from him in awhile and that is bothering me. Altho he did tell me to let it be for awhile. So many emotions!
