New Miserable Person - WAW

[Queen_of_Swords]

You are going to have to let go of this.
You cannot control what she does. You can only control what you do.
You have the same chance we all do when we come here.
You have the books, the tools must be personalised to your situation.
The tools work, the strategies work, do what works.

Yes it's counter intuitive, yes it's internally wrenching to do things that go against your natural proclivities.

I am sure my H is having an EA. Can I do anything about it, no absolutely not.
All I can do is be MORE attractive to him than what he's settling for.

I'm the banquet, anyone else isn't going to compare as I make the changes I need to be the best me possible.
I have a connection that's unbreakable, and a history with my H.

You share in this.

Be the banquet.