Rolling with the punches

[Redo]

Thanks Mike:

Yea i think i tried to follow some of the advice given in these forums. Validating them. Make sure that they understand it was their choice. Dont try to be defensive. Let them know that you are moving on with your life etc.

But at the end of the conversation, i felt more bad then good. these ran through my mind

1: Did i get her upset by being devoid of emotion (She was the one crying and i did not)

2: Why am i feeling so crappy for having told my wife that i need to check the balances before paying for daughter's school clothes. Should i feel bad for having said that? I did tell my wife that i gonna do anything for my daughter. But still wife was upset that i put money first before daughter. She knows very well that i am not that money minded crazy. I even told her that i did not take up a lawyer and decided to go by myself just so i can save some money for our family.

3: I have this feeling that she might be mighty upset when i plan on seeing her next sunday for the ceremony. I am not sure how her parents are gonna react here. They definitely heard our conversation(wife lives with her parents)

4: I feel that from time wife filed for divorce, this has been the first big argument. I always dreaded arguments with my wife and sort of went into shutdown when that happened. I felt the same yesterday, but later i recovered. I was trying to convince myself that i handled it okay. But one part of me still feels i messed up. I still have to build up that confidence in myself.

I dont mind getting 2x4's from you guys. I just want to know if i am on the right path here.