Cadet. I've seen and read most of the links so you don't need to post them for me. Thanks though!
A little more background. We've been together 7 years and will be married 6 years in April. We were together in the town house up until August of this year. I know that the second house and mortgage added stress. We moved out of the school district and wanted his S who's a senior to finish out at his other school so we shared the responsibility of getting him to and from school. We were also very busy packing, moving and unpacking all summer and into the fall. We got a new puppy in October and he traveled for work 3 weeks in November. When he told me we had nothing in common anymore because we were no longer doing the activities we used to do I told him we didn't have time for anything because of this huge change. I know now to be quiet because it doesn't matter what I say.
I've been focusing on myself and have been pretty dark. He's learned that I won't return texts or calls unless I deem it important so he's gotten to leaving messages for me to call him with no reason so I have to call to see what he wants.
I really don't want to see him today. He wants me to bring the two dogs I have over to play with the one he kept for a play date while we talk about the divorce. Up until yesterday he always referred to it as what we're going to do about us...yesterday he outright stated in his text we're meeting about how to move forward with the divorce.
He's had stress at work. He works in a very fast paced environment and there are always changes and restructuring. He's always stressed about being laid off. He's been laid off 2 times since we've been married and he's concerned that it'll just be harder to find a job should it happen again. He was bullied and beaten regularly by bullies as a child and I think not being in control about his employment future and the demands on him at work may have triggered his crisis.
I had breakfast with some friends today that I haven't seen since last spring. We sat down and I asked what's new with them...they came back at me with how am I doing...they said they suspect something but need to hear it from me. I guess they know me pretty well. They commented on my FB posts getting stronger...they could see I was going through something but all my posts are about strength and change...I told them about fake it till you make it.
I am much stronger though. I'm making some awesome changes for myself and they're helping me to hold my head up high. Best of all is finding my way back to God and laying this at his feet. He's taking care of me and I can see that...I have faith and trust in Him. This is out of my control.
