Did you answer the question for yourself, and what did you discover?
What question is that Busting Mode?
How I am rejected, and how I rejected my H too?
The answers are usually 1 and 3, mostly three for me given my H.'s very explicit list of my percieved flaws from his perspective.
My H. is not a negative individual in the main.
I certainly was moreso for reasons that are listed in other places in my posts, and that certainly affected how I rejected him.
The hardest person to know is yourself, and I have discovered so many uncconcious/subconcious motivators to my behaviours already. Knowing what they are is half the solution to addressing many of my flaws! You can't defuse what you're unaware of. You can't fix certain behaviours unless you know what drives them.
A benefit is I've also discovered who I truly want to be, how that person I am becoming behaves and what gifts personality wise I've also been given.
This is a life long process for me that I just started almost 2 years ago.
If I do not myself well, how can others close to me know me well at all?
It's bigger than that though BustingMode. How you were rejected by your family of orgin has a big role to play in both your and your W's interactions today. It got handed down like a really awful family heirloom
So did I answer the question for you. Probably more than you wanted.
I carry and have memorized what you found relevant on rejection in my head so I can evaluate and categorize the rejection I recieve now from anyone. It's made life a lot easier.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
