You are EXACTLY right about searching for your weak spots. Think of the Velosaraptors in Jurassic Park. He's looking for an opening, and then WHAMO. Same temperament as the big lizards.
He is also trying to make you feel guilty, which you should not at all. If he gave you extra, fantastic, it just goes toward making up for all the months of neglect.
Mine offered to put me through college! Guilt or Bribe? Who knows, who cares. Nothing he says can be counted on.
I really like what you did with your answer letter. It's best, Perhaps you can have these letters published someday by a vanity press and send him a copy. LOL
Keep detaching. Observe as if you were Jane Goodall observing her monkeys in the wild. No interaction, just watching. ((HUGS))
