So you said you have been reading since Dec. Do you need me to post the resources on your thread? I can do it if you wish. Let me know what you want.
This like Grit said is your time. Start working on you and don't worry about him.
You speak to your MLC'er by actions not words. Remeber one of the things in my initial thread is to beleive nothing of what they say and 50% of what they do. Well you can turn that around too. They will believe your actions not your words.
I always say to heep your eyes and ears open and your mouth closed!
If you start dating or get remarried then he will know that you have given up your stand. Actions not words.
Keep posting and let me know about the resource thread.