[edited by dbmod: advertising/not recommended] However, you have got to stop watching your Wife's reactions. YOU have to do things differently. If you keep watching HER and HER reactions you will get no where. You might see positive in your actions, but until you move the opposite direction, she will view you as pursuing and being a doormat.
Sandi has some wise words. Please heed them. Break your focus of her and start moving forward with you. Only when you break away from doing these things for her will you get her to really notice. Do everything for you. Lead your life with a purpose and she will notice.
Same old you is there and trying; Opposite of that is doing what your learning but showing her you moving in a different direction. No more doormat. Show her you will NOT wait around for her. It's imperative you go out and do things that make you happy. YOU. Lead and she will follow...and if she doesn't at least you are enjoying it.
