Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

[sparks14]

Thanks, Figg. I know you are there when I need good advice.

I have to detach the OW completely. It is just really difficult in this situation, but I know it has to be done. Knowing that my W really doesn't know (or at least she says) what she needs, but that she feels the most emotional connection to OW really gets to me. I feel sometimes like she has made up her mind, and all of this is just for show.

I also need to detach from the attention to the wife. This can be difficult as well, because we do communicate everyday due to the swapping our S back and forth everyday. Add in our couples therapy on Tuesdays and our planned once a week no stress dinners out, it can be tough to ignore. I do hear what you are saying, though.

Tonight, after my wife and S left, I did one more extra thing that has to stop. W has our S tomorrow all day, so I mentioned on the way home from dinner if she wanted our Bob stroller to walk around the lake. She said that she did and a great idea. When we swapped cars at the house, we forgot about it.

On my way out, I grabbed it and drove the on mile to her brother's apartment to drop it in her car for her. I sent her a text letting her know that we had forgotten it, and I knew she was looking forward to the sunshine with our S, so I dropped it off for her. Her car was there, it has a key code that she knows that I know, so it wasn't a problem. To me, at least I wasn't getting into her space by coming up to the apartment. That is what I was thinking on my way over.

I know in the end, that this was too much to do for her. I know that she can even take this as me spying on her to make sure she really was at her brother's place and OW was not around. After I did all of this, I realized all of this. It was also an extra favor that was not needed. I kicked myself for going against my promise on here, but I made the mistake. At least as a positive, I mentioned that I dropped it off on my way out. Being a weekend night, at least she may be curious as to what I am up to tonight. She always is. GAL.

Oh well. Win some. Lose some. I want to win a thousand times more than I lose, though.