While going neanderthal may not be necessary, my point was you stand up. She can rant, she can threaten, hey babe, fine with me. I am standing strong in front of you and I'm not cowering away. I refuse to be spoken to disrespectfully. I REFUSE. You do not swallow her BS and then send her an email the next day telling her she needs to consider conducting herself differently. You want to say, hold up sister, you will be respectful. If you are not able to do that, you know were to find me when you are.
DNO, Are you suggesting I overpower her voice and back her down? It sounds like someting a police officer would do. What am I supposed to do if she's disrespectful in public?
I don't think she generally pushes me around. The problem is how to handle her rants, when she's unglued, and her mind and mouth are racing. I haven't tried an overpower her approach, so I don't know how it would work.
I hear what you and Starsky are saying, but I don't have much faith in it, at this time. I don't see words or tone having much influence at controlling, or deescalating her. The only option I see is to remove myself from her presence for a period of time.
CL
CL,
You say you're listening, and yet you're not. A better path has been suggested to you, repeatedly, and yet you've rejected it. If your way is working, then that's fine. From my perspective, I don't see that it is, and you really have nothing to lose from trying a different approach.
