Sandi2, Thanks for the input. Here are some answers. I guess there was a growing distance between the W and I before her EA in 2006, at least that was her excuse at the time. She had lost my trust quite a bit in the year or two leading up to EA due to some financial issues. Running up my credit cards behind my back, lying about bills being paid, draining the class reunion account (I was treasurer), and hiding things from me until there was a disaster that I had to fix. Things like not telling me the car payment was late until the car was going down the strees at 5:00am on the back of the repo truck. It would happen every 6-months or so. I honestly think she was hiding the bad news from me to protect me. In 2006, She was feeling neglected by me, she was turning 39 and a younger (26) guy at work was paying her lots of attention. It came to a head when I saw a phone bill with 900 txt msgs between them. We talked & talked about it, W stopped it when confronted and swore it wasn't a PA. The guy isn't in the picture any more. During our talks she wanted to be completely honest and admitted a one-nighter PA about 3-years into our M, 9-months after our S was born. Since 2006 I have really tried to rebuild trust and things were getting better, until summer 2008 when I was served with foreclosure, at which point my W admitted being a few months behind. We are still in the house and in the midst of restructuring our mortgage.
I still love my W, but I think she has some serious issues. At times I feel she is dragging me down.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
