Need Help dealing with my WAW

[sandi2]

Welcome aboard. Stick with posting and it will pick up soon.

I can sort of identify with your W going numb b/c of the H's emotional distance. Did you realize you were putting distance between you and your W?

Sorry to ask a lot of questions, but it helps to get a better idea of things. Were you distant to her before she had the EA or after?

I would normally text her several times during the game and ask her how she is doing,

Why?
Why?

plus I'd call when the game ended to see when she was coming home

Why?

it's time I took control of my financial future

Very wise. I hope you haven't waited too long.

I'm sure she will see it as a sign that I don't trust her, and she will probably react badly.

She probably will, but you have let her have the reigns for a long time. She's not going to give that up very gracefully, IMO. She may not want you to see how she budgets your money. Be prepared for her to accuse you of many things when you stand up to her on both your feet. ;

I'm planning to take things one day at at time.

Okay. Do you have particular goals in mind?

I always call her after class (around noon) and ask how it went, but then I always follow up with questions like: where are you going now, what are you going to do for the rest of the day, etc?

I have suspicions that she meets up with OM for lunch

OMG! You mean the same one she had an A with a few years ago?

I worry that if I don't call she will get the impression that I don't care about her and it will just reinforce her perceptions.

WHAT??!!