Some speculation on my part, correct me if I am wrong:
It is complicated because you have never broken free from the emotional hold your parents have on you. Your R with your parents has played a huge role in the development of your personality, and in how you have acted in your M.
Bingo. As i said, my parents fought a lot when i was a kid. Never learnt any conflict resolution skills from them other than having panic attacks. Along with this i also felt this huge guilt whenever i was enjoying myself. I felt bad for my parents. I think finally i am to a point where my parents dont behaviors dont bother me much. I am detaching from them.
I know i should have done this years earlier. Iguess better late then never.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...