Originally Posted By: spellfire
Originally Posted By: mykarma
Its complicated.


Some speculation on my part, correct me if I am wrong:

It is complicated because you have never broken free from the emotional hold your parents have on you. Your R with your parents has played a huge role in the development of your personality, and in how you have acted in your M.


Bingo. As i said, my parents fought a lot when i was a kid. Never learnt any conflict resolution skills from them other than having panic attacks. Along with this i also felt this huge guilt whenever i was enjoying myself. I felt bad for my parents. I think finally i am to a point where my parents dont behaviors dont bother me much. I am detaching from them.

I know i should have done this years earlier. Iguess better late then never.


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M 38
W 36
D 7
Married 15 yrs
W left for 6 months in 2009
W Filed for D 01/03/11
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