Pam, that is what I thought, to go on about as if it didn't happen, and act confident tonight/tomorrow.
I guess I always think of h as a "pillar of strength." He never lets other people get to him (oh, except me), but I mean he doesn't care what people think, feels secure of his character, etc. But, he never thinks that he is good looing, and when we first started dating, he told me that he often felt insecure about his body. He has referred to himself as "freakishly tall."
Ok, so his belly is not the prettiest thing, but I really don't care. well...i do care a little. For health reasons too. But I am more attracted to other parts of his body AND WHO HE IS!! I think his face is gorgeous, and I am a face-gal. So, how do I convey this without sounding sappy or insincere? He doesn't take compliments very well b/c he disagrees. I was thinking about writing him a note/poem/ecard. I got him a funny vday card b/c that what I think HE would like. I would like mush & gush, but right now, I don't think that that will happen.
I know I make everything about me...I really need to think about what he wants/needs from me. This whole R has been about me and my feelings-he prob. feels short-changed. But I would like to be there for him. Last night he called it "his prob." but I said it was mine too. After all, I am the one feeding him ice cream! (But I don't feed him the candy, pop, fast food, and beer!) Besides, what can he expect being married to the Cheesecake Queen?
Quote: AS for what to do now...treat h with as much love and compassion and warmth as you can muster AND don't make it all about you This time it's about him and his feelings and hurts.
Keep swimming...I know this is what I have to do!! Thanks a lot! karen
