Some speculation on my part, correct me if I am wrong:
It is complicated because you have never broken free from the emotional hold your parents have on you. Your R with your parents has played a huge role in the development of your personality, and in how you have acted in your M.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A