Has anyone else noticed the ratio of men on this site to women. I bet we out number them 3 to 1. Now why is this? Are more women leaving M then men or is our "I'm a man and I can fix it" attitude leading us to search for the right tool for the job. Almost every sitch I've read on here by a woman has been bc her H has left for an A. True many of us guys are in this sitch but for women on here it just seems to be "standard issue." So many of us guys are on here not bc of an A, but bc there was an emotional detachment and that's it.
I used to consider myself a real tough guy. Hell I'm a veteran, land surveyor, who comes from a family of loggers. I hunt, fish, hike, lift weights, cut wood, etc. I never would have thought I would be this in touch with my feelings....wtf! I know all those happy married guys out there don't have to be examined by the man nearly as closely as we have done ours, but those guys make it work. How? Are they just born better at this than we are...doubt it. Did they M a more compatible mate...doubt it. Why would we be on here fighting so hard if we didn't know this was the person for us to spend the rest of our lives with. I make it a point to talk to many older men who are both in long M or ones that have been D. Surprising how open even the "tough guys" are to talking about it. All of them have made choices very similar to ours. Some M have made it through the gauntlet and some have not. So I ask, are all just rolling the dice?
