Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Down,

I am not telling you to go out and develop a R with OW.

However friendly interaction with OW will do you good.

I agree with you on that you should mislead OW with your intentions. So be friendly then. Joke around with your friends Ws if you all go out together.
Don't isolate your thought about your W being the only womean out there that you can be happy with.

I have a friend that used to be on here that chose not to go out with OW. That was his belief. I respect that.

As for me, I did agree with it too. But when I met my W to discuss the dividion of our assets and the custody schedule for our kids, she looked me straight in the eye when I asked her if she wanted a D and she said yes.
I then asked if she thought it was the best thing for us. Again she said yes.
It was hard but I had my answers.
Two weeks later I found out she slept with OM.

Those two instances made it easy for me to drop the rope, detach and move on. And yet I still cared


two months later I chose to go out with OW b/c I had no future with my W.


Are you ready for that news?
How are you going to feel when you find out your W slept with OM?

I was sick for weeks.

my advice comes from experience. I would love for you and your W to work things out.

I know talking and being nice doesn't work. I'm not saying go out of your way to be a jerk.
no, no.

You have code that you will not go out with OW. Great!
What are your codes about being mistreated by your W?

These codes(Boundaries) are essential and define who you are.

When your W ask about seeing other people should be a major concern for you.

Remember this T E A.

Thoughts, Emotions, Actions.

Your W is already having thoughts and I'm guessing see is just about to cross the emotions line. That leads to action.

I'm all for saving M.
Some times tough love is the way to go.

I know sometimes we hear things here that we don't agree with. That's OK, however just b/c we don't agree with it doesn't make it wrong.

I will stop dispensing my thoughts towards your sitch.
I wish you luck.
gr8