SIC - just got caught up on your sitch. I agree with everything everyone has said.

Remember, you can control just YOU. I also think that if you did have low-self esteem you'd be out there on every on-line dating site etc. just to feel better about yourself and that you still have game. My H did that 2 weeks after he moved out. A good friend of mine told me that is to stroke the male ego and it really gave me a different perspective. Thing is, he is absolutely correct and for us LBS who work on ourselves in the end who do you think is going to be stuck and who will move forward?

Like LIS said, go the DB FB site. Great articles on there. I too have to pick up that book. I've been hesitant to buy it only because I'm not sure if it will help my sitch since my D date is about 4 weeks away.

I don't like the fact that your W says such negative things about you in front of your daughter. I'm glad that you told her that is unacceptable. That in itself should answer the question I asked above. :-)

Stay strong and sending positive vibes.

ZEN

BITS

M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11