I have a couple of serious questions that have been niggin' at my mind, which I would like input on, especially from the ladies and spouses in this forum:
1. Regarding what my wife said during our last big conversation (posted 2/23) that she has become apathetic towards me. She said that during her introspection earlier in our separation (maybe even before that), she realized that she doesn't feel hurt or bad envisioning me dating or being with another woman. She said she didn't care anymore. My question is: From a woman's perspective, once your mind is apathetic like my wife is, does that mean a complete emotional disconnect and that it's irreversible? Or is it part of a defensive wall?
2. Speaking in terms of the DB rule of not pushing your spouse away, I sense that I may be driving my wife to show increased interest in other men (your hunch was right, Mike) merely due to the hope and stance I've frequently stated to her. My theory is that because my wife feels like I'm not letting go, it's pushing her away and increasing her need to find someone else. I've tried explaining to her that it's about a new respect and understanding of my marriage vows with or without her, etc. It's not about possessiveness. What do you think?
