Had our MC session this morning. At first W was complaining about it. I know a few months a ago , that would've lead to a fight, but I just kinda listened. Turns out she didn't like taking a part of her day to have this, but knows it important.
Overall a very good session. Basically we talked about being impatient. First thing he says to me "You don't strike me as an impatient guy."
The he says that here is something that is causing the impatience. I know. We get into this whole idea that I at times need the physical touch as a sign. Of what? I said that she still loves me. I said that when I don't get it I feel rejected and lonely or that she doesn't love me. So basically she says you attribute a secondly meaning to the lack of affection and it threatens you. So when you get threatened you get angry. The key is to stop it before it threatens you.
that makes total sense to me because I could never see the connection between being impatient and getting angry as I did. Now it's fairly clear. If something dear to you is threatened, you do get mad.
My wife did say that she could work harder on that stuff because she also has attached a secondary meaning to giving me touches that doesn't exist anymore. We will see where it goes. The MC did say that we were making a lot of progress.
We also agreed its occasionally okay to bring up issue for clarification to each other.
Lastly, I was thinking about it this way. I have to turn a negative into a positive. Take no sex. - With not having sex, I'm free from the anticipation of will it happen to night or not and no rejection either. plus i can let myself go. LOL or the long you go without those touches the sweeter they will be. Thank kind a stuff.
XYZ, while my W doesn't complain about me objectifying parts of her body. She certainly makes it difficult to ignore when she routinely walks around naked after a show or walks about in sexy black underwears. :-0
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
