Another question. I thought this board was about saving marriages. What sense would it make for me to go out and find OW? That would not make sense legally or morally. I feel that pain and sometimes wonder if that is what I should do, but if that is the extent I have to go to save my marriage then count me out. Just because she could be doing something doesn't mean I should do it. I am not confused about what I want. All this could do for me is ruin my life mentally, and financially. I don't have an ego that I need to build up. I am not ready to pursue someone else or I would and I wouldn't be here.
I agree with you here. You do not need to go out and meet other women to make your W feel like you are an attractive commodity. Just take care of yourself, detach from the little things with you W, flip a behavioral switch that shows your best qualities (the qualities that made her want to marry you in the first place), appear self confident and secure in yourself.
That does not mean start dating and parading around your W with all of these girls that are interested. That is the game she is playing. That does not mean you have to play it, too. Just brush it off.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
