Well, back to the real world. Dad's doctor told us that Dad has two maybe three more weeks to live...tops. He said Dad would have a few good days in a row here and there and then it will be like he fell off a cliff. Last night Mom was talking to me about arrangements. We're going with a one day affair, a viewing before the funeral. We're holding it at his church because that's where he spent so much of his time and life. Cremation or burial? Dad won't talk about arrangements. Mom asked which option I preferred and I said "I don't want either option" but what is is. We'll figure it out. The end is in sight...there must be some good in this...somwehere. Life goes on.
Oh, Wii! My heart goes out to you. There is always an end to life, but there will be a beginning too. Your dad will be seeing all of his family and friends who have gone on before him.
I will pray that the comforter will be with you, to give you peace at this difficult time. And the spirit to know what will be best for your dad, and strength to be there for your mom ... she is, after all, losing her husband, the father of her children, and that has to be tough.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I am so glad that you were able to have some really good talks with your Dad. It will mean so much to you later. I wish I knew all the right things to say so that you wouldn't hurt and feel sad. The best I can do is offer you hugs and prayers.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The good in it, Wii, is that you have time to say your goodbyes. My dad dropped dead of a sudden heart attack when I was 14. I've often envied people like you who at least have a chance to tell your loved ones what is in your heart.
I understand how difficult this time is and my heart goes out to you. But it really is a gift to have time to say goodbye and to prepare. My Mom died 3 months after her terminal diagnosis. Long enough for us to be more ready emotionally, long enough for us to say all that needs to be said but not so long that she suffered too much.
My Dad and I made all the funeral arrangements about a week ahead but found out that Mom had been in a few years earlier and already made most of those decisions. Made it much easier when the time came and we just had to choose flowers and finalize things.
I'm coming home to Canada today. Please turn up the thermostat - not sure I am ready to deal with it.
Will your dad be an organ donor? It brings comfort to many families to know that part of him goes on here on Earth while their soul goes home...
Not sure what organs he has left that aren't filled with Cancer? He's also had a heart attack early on while in hospital. There ain't much there left to take! Btw, I know there are blessings indeed. Being able to spend time with Dad almost each evening is a blessing but it's also draining. I've been using Lorazepam more often at night to sleep better. My day is to get up at 7:00 am, get to work, go home and do what ever family chores e.g. child pick up, drop off, shopping etc, have dinner and then head down to see my Dad. I get home about 9:00 pm. It wears you down. And last night I come home to find that D17 has dumped her bf and he's calling constantly. Finally, he shows up at the apartment and I need intercept him in the hall and escort him out. I felt so sorry for him, he was like a sad little puppy dog...I was kind but firm. Today is another day. I expect the best today...really!
