Had a convo with my dad yesterday to update parents on the sitch. Up until now I have kept the EA and W's fantasy away from them. But had to finally update and"explain". Dad went ballestic in the phone: "Who gets divorced and then lives in the same house etc etc!" "She's f@cking some other guy and you're going to put up with that??!"
Had to calm him down - the future is not set in granite - W could still move out. And I mean that. There's no interaction with her. Either she's so buried in guilt or can't stand being in the same room for some other reason that the strangeness of this "living arrangement" will finally get to her one way or the other.
The question is, how will her desire to stick around for the kids cope against her desire to flee? Thank God I am GAL'ing and not drawn into her drama. One day in the future she'll realize I am not the cause of her problems and the D is not the answer. But I'm not holding my breath.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
