Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

Another question. I thought this board was about saving marriages. What sense would it make for me to go out and find OW? That would not make sense legally or morally. I feel that pain and sometimes wonder if that is what I should do, but if that is the extent I have to go to save my marriage then count me out. Just because she could be doing something doesn't mean I should do it. I am not confused about what I want. All this could do for me is ruin my life mentally, and financially. I don't have an ego that I need to build up. I am not ready to pursue someone else or I would and I wouldn't be here.