Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

Anybody want to analyze this?

i GIVE IT A GO

I see this as being another babystep

We are definitely seeing things differently.

W: How do you feel about me seeing other Men

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HUGE RED FLAG!!!!

Why in the world would a woman ask her H this if there was an attraction to you.

Just her saying this may mean she has already made that step.

Ihave experianced the same situation.
She lost her attraction to you. You're too nice about the situation.


What worked for me was when I started dating OW. When OW tokk an interest in me my value increased. Women want men with value.
Right now you have now value to her b/c she can have you at a drop of a dime. Shes knows that. It's when you appear to have no interest in her a are moving on with your life without her, then she will feel she's losing you.
People instinctively want what they can't have.

Start by stop taking her trivia calls.
These are still crumbs for you. You think talking to her will make her change her mind.
There is nothing you can say the convince her you are the best option, nothing.
You can only show her.

W: How do you feel about me seeing other men? Since people know I'm getting D I am getting hit on more.

You: W, I think that's a great idea. In fact I have had OW interested in me now too.

You validated her feelings and you flipped to sitch.

It has been seen here many a times. Once the WAW sees you interacting with OW and you're happy, something changes in their thinking. That's what works, it worked for me.
I'm not saying go out and sleep with OW but start talking to them and learn the art of flirting again.
Start with a cashier at the local store. Smile, say hi and have an upbate tone.

You will start to feel better about yourself and others will notice.

The is a big step and I undrstand why you won't act right away. It took me time too.

You may be thinking that if you show interest in OW that your wife will think you have no interest in her.
That's part of the attraction. She will then start DOING things to get your attention b/c she can't have you.

Again stop these meaningless phone calls. Let her talk to the kids and that's it. You get busy. You have things to do, stop wasting time talking to her when you have the kids.
Be the best father when you have the kids and then have fun when you don't.

gr8

There is one thing that was left out in previous updates and this is why I see this as a baby step. We discussed this topic previously. I told her I didn't care who she saw and she shouldn't care who I saw. That night she contacted the OM for the first time. Now she has said that she has cut contact with OM and is overwhelmed by people asking her to go out with them.