Many years ago I wrote a book on helping people overcome addictions. In the book, I described a 7 Step method to improve any unwanted behavior.
It was based on the acronym I.M.P.R.O.V.E., my reasoning being that the better we feel about ourselves, the better we do for ourselves, so it really makes no sense to continue beating ourselves up and focusing on our failures.
So today I am going to I.M.P.R.O.V.E myself for me! IDENTIFY THE REAL NEED:
Today I just need to feel good about myself and catch up with my work.
MAKE IT ESSENTIAL:
If I don't feel better about myself and catch up on my work immediately then I will continue feeling and acting like a victim, my business partners will abandon me, and I will never get off this island! I will remain stranded here in this cold and concrete dirty basement even longer! Worst of all, failing to get 'er done will prove to Beckie she was right about me! If I continue thinking, feeling and acting the way I was, I will never win back my wife!!!
PICK SOME NEW BELIEFS:
Old belief: There's no way I can do it. New belief: We can make Our Love do anything we want. And I can make MY Love do anything I want!!! HOLY SHEEP SH*T!!!
WOW!
REPLACE THE BEHAVIOR (To better meet the need.)\ Old behaviors:
Letting my mind and body wander unproductively. Forcing my mind and body to sit and work together. Holding tension in my body. Keeping my facial muscles blank and rigid. Avoiding setting my countdown timer and designing my results in advance.
New behavior for today:
Today I'm just gonna take it easy, be less structured in my day, and just commit to getting 6 MGA units in (6 x 45 minute Money Generating Activities) anytime today, before I sleep tonight.
No pressure! Just relax and you'll get 'er done, Son!
OVER AND OVER AGAIN:
Of course, in order to condition this new way of thinking, feeling and behaving, I can't just do it once. I'm must now start practicing it in a variety of situations and conditions.
Awesome! Right now with no access to my home and without even my own apartment, I have plenty of time and space to practice being true to me wherever it is I am!
VALIDATE YOUR PROGRESS:
Yes. The time I am spending now to take care of my mind and body is vitally important. I love myself. I am totally awesome. Today I am the possibility of being fully present every waking moment.
ENVIRONMENTAL SUPPORT:
Wow. I am truly blessed. Thank you once again to Michelle. Virginia, all the DB staff and coaches, and especially each of you who is fighting the good fight. Couldn't ask for a more loving and supportive environment than what's always available to us right here on these boards.
Together we will do it. Together let's win the day.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
